Making Sense of Desi Women: 10 Tips for Dating in India

Written by Padmay Lak. Posted in Indian Dating

Indian women are elegant, classy, respectable, and some of the most wonderful women in the world to court and marry. Thanks to their cultural values, they are especially loyal to only one man, enjoy bonding, making memories, and creating a family one day of their own.

They are typically especially close to their parents, family, have more than one sibling, and are brought up with a certain level of respect that is not seen as frequently in western influenced nations or the United States.

So, you’re ready to travel to India to date a local Desi woman, or you’ve simply had the pleasure of meeting a local, Indian-born woman in your home country and don’t know where to begin?

Check out these 10 Tips to help you better understand Desi women, why they act the ways they do, and what they look for in a man.

1. Indian women admire, and appreciate honesty – therefore, be humble. Do not attempt to show off to your Desi woman, or pretend to be someone you’re not. While they enjoy a nice lifestyle, eating at good places, or quality entertainment they also know how to be frugal, and are not impressed by riches.

There are plenty of “rich” Indian men attempting to court them in their home country, so there must be a reason greater than this that they are dating or with you. Make genuine efforts to get to know the woman you’re with and dating, what her family is like, and what her social views or expectations are for both Indian men and foreigners – feel her out over time, and then take it from there.

2. Desi women are typically quite educated, intellectual, and have been raised with class. Therefore, expect to be dating a woman that can meet or come awfully close to your level of intellect as far as global issues go, history, science, and culture.

Often, they will also speak English fluently which is a huge plus, but likewise in return, they’ll expect you to frequently produce intellectual, meaningful conversations. This type of ‘give and take’ will not only stimulate your senses, but also your relationship, keeping things unique, positive, and contributing to the two of you getting to know one another better.

3. No matter what part of India your date is from, or living in, deep down she will always be a Desi true at heart, and carry her cultural values with her to one extent or another. For example, Indian women can be quite conservative and traditional, but appreciate for the good they’ll bring you and your relationship!

For many men, dating a woman with class that dresses nicely, and conducts herself with respect and dignity is a huge turn on – and creates a sincere, emotional connection.

Indian girl in front of the computer

4. The next tip is a two-part consideration and rule. First, understand that more than anything money can buy, spending time together with your Desi girlfriend will far surpass any gifts you can buy her, or any cheesy “pick up lines” or flirtatious comments you can think of.

Therefore, getting to know your Desi lover is key to winning her heart, and most importantly, keeping her for years to come and possibly starting a life together.

5. As the second part to the above tip, prepare and understand why giving your Indian girlfriend space is critical. These women are independent, intelligent, and very ambitious.

They also typically have a very large social network, which means they will have a habit of frequently spending time with their friends and girlfriends as well – sometimes including guy friends.

This is not necessarily so common in the United States, and may take some getting used to. But, on the bright side, this means that your Desi girlfriend will be less likely to be as “needy” as what you’ve experienced before.

6. Next up, is a big no-no for any relationship, but especially with Indian women; do not under any circumstances ever compare your girlfriend to previous relationships, your mother, or anyone else.

Appreciate and respect her for her uniqueness, and know that this is a big turn-off for Desi women if it’s a habit of yours – and sure to end the relationship sooner than later.

Indian women are bright, beautiful, unique, and very culturally different in comparison to western countries and culture. They know what they want out of life, from a man, and for their future – so it’s ideal you do too, or are at least proactively working on this.

7. India is a huge large country, and because of this, has many variations of cultural influences and traditions. With that in mind, consider conducting research on where your Indian date or lover comes from, so that you may better understand the ways she acts, what she wants, expects from life, and other things like food, traditions, and marriage.

Don’t’ ever assume that she likes the same thing as “all Indians” do, as this is not only more than likely inaccurate, but can also be quite offensive. The north and south of India vary greatly, so don’t limit yourself to only dating or courting women in one part.

Wxplore this beautiful country, it’s people, and learn what makes them ‘tick’. You doing so will not only help you along the way, but is sure to impress your Desi girlfriend, increasing your overall appeal.

cute curly Indian girl

8. Most Indian women do not like the idea of, and will not agree to an arranged marriage. So, this works in your favor as a foreigner, since chances are their family would have never attempted to arrange a marriage with any other man beside an Indian man.

Second, it’s critical that you acknowledge this reality, and accept that in major, modernized (and westernized) cities like New Delhi that this type of arrangement has little to no presence. This is typically more common out in rural settings, and even then, families are more than open to and happy with the idea of their daughter marrying a foreigner.

You see, while they may be weary, the most important thing to them is that you respect, love her, and make her happy. So make it a point not to mention, or assume that this is something that’s a part of her life, culture, ever was before, or might be in the future.

9. Nicknames are quite common in Indian relationships, and this goes for those dating foreigners too. So, just take your time with the relationship, be patient, and over time it’s more than likely that she’ll create a cute, likable nickname for you.

Just don’t push it or be overbearing, or attempt to give her one unless you’re absolutely confident that it’s appropriate, and that she’ll like it. It’s much more ideal for you to let her give you one first, so you can test out the waters and understand her cultural reasons for doing so – and how she came up with it.

10. Last but not least, have no fear, when learning to speak Hindi it’s a common struggle to mistakenly pronounce a “W” sound with a “V” sound. This is why it’s so important to practice the local language, study the alphabetic and how it works, phonetics, and even take classes locally if possible. And of course, your beautiful, one of a kind Desi lover should also be happy to help you along the way in speaking her language better.

Remember, a language is only but one of many parts of a culture, along with traditions, social relationships, religious views or practice, and others. Research in advance is always helpful, but really immersing yourself into the local environment is the best bet for getting to know beautiful, single, and open-minded Desi women that are willing to date, and possibly make a future with a foreigner.

The Art of Dating Indian Women

Written by Padmay Lak. Posted in Indian Dating

Indian Women Wearing Red OutfitDating can be particularly complicated when the individual you desire has a different ethnic or cultural background.  You need to take added care to keep away from offending her as it relates to her characteristics or customs which you might find strange.

The challenge of dating Indian girls involves capturing their attention successfully without degrading yourself or compromising her integrity.  Taking some amount of time to put things in order could make the difference between being ridiculed and being desired.  Below are some guidelines as to how you can be a success at dating Indian girls:

Be Unique

On a regular basis, gorgeous girls are pursued by a vast assortment of men. If your actions are not original, you will soon be forgotten.  Despite the fact that it helps to be handsome, it is important to note that only good looks will not be enough to make an impression on beautiful Indian girls.

The mere fact that the woman is beautiful blows her dating options wide open, still she is likely to be weary of hearing the same old jokes and pickup lines. Being unique and original could assist in distinguishing you from the multitude of possible suitors.

Show Respect to Her Traditions and Culture

Despite the fact that you might not fully be aware of everything about her culture and traditions, it is essential to show her that you view her as an exceptional individual.  Show respect for her boundaries when you are complimenting her, by enabling her to stay modest.  Some Indian women have the tendency to feel harassed by too much stares and compliments.  Frequently, less is often more as it relates to making a positive impact on Indian woman.

Show Her the Art of Chivalry is Still Alive and Well

Even though good manners and chivalry are typically important in your dealings with women in general, these characteristics happen to be even more significant when trying to make an impression on an Indian woman.  Traditional Indian culture puts great significance on the manner in which women are treated.

Gestures such as pulling out chairs or opening doors could assist you in earning valuable points. This kind of behavior is an indication that you will actually take the time to show her respect and make her feel special.  Despite the fact that women typically like outgoing and confident men, making the effort to put your more refined side on display will possibly just lift you up to a level that is a great deal higher.

Build up a Good Relationship with Her Family Members

Closeness to family is an essential feature of the Indian society and this should be considered when trying to make an impression on a gorgeous Indian girl.  Make sure that you put in the effort to know her whole family and pay close attention to the relationship with the men.

You can have success in dating Indian girls if you follow certain guidelines, learn about their culture, respect their boundaries and build positive relationship with their relatives.

The Beauty of Indian Girls

Desi Dating – South Asian Singles Unite!

Written by Padmay Lak. Posted in Indian Dating

cute desi girlsFor those of you who don’t know what the term Desi means, it refers to a male or female from a south Asian country or who one who has direct ancestors who were born in one of those countries. South Asian countries have different cultural values than the western hemisphere such as the great importance that they place on finding a suitable mate for their family members. Arranged marriages are slowly becoming a thing of the past, but there are still some stipulations that are placed on Desi relationships by family.

The women are expected to marry men who are smart and educated. The men do not have to be wealthy, but they should have good jobs and the ability to care for a family. The men are expected to marry women who are smart and beautiful. Not only are these qualifications expected to be met, but there is also pressure to marry someone from the same ethnic and cultural group.

Desi dating is something that can become quite complicated. If you are looking for a serious relationship or just someone to have fun with, you might run into a problem actually finding someone of the same south Asian culture in your area. There can be a lot of pressure for a young desi man or woman to find someone to settle down with and marry. Most Indian cultures believe that marriage is sacred and something that everyone should have. They do not believe in casual relationships or sex.

Sex outside of marriage is considered to be sinful and taboo along with relationships that don’t have marriage as the goal. However it is possible to move in with the person that you are engaged to as long as you don’t have marital relations before your wedding. It is believed that it is better to live with someone for a while to make sure that it will work out before getting married and committing to the relationship. If you are just living together you can break up and find someone else when things don’t work anymore.

There are several ways to find that special someone outside of your workplace, church, or social life. There are numerous Desi Dating websites that can be very helpful in locating singles in your community. For those of you who are anxious to get married you should check out If you are just looking for someone to have a good time with or for a lighter relationship look at

 Desi Girls

Tamil Dating in a Modern World

Written by Padmay Lak. Posted in Indian Dating

There are approximately 77 million Tamil’s in the world. Tamil people are an ethnic group from Tamil Nadu, India and the north east region of Sri Lanka. Over 85 percent are Hindu with the remaining percentages made up of Christian and Muslim beliefs. Most Tamils have strong feelings about their native language Tamilannai and to a large extent it still defines their identity.

Tamil dating is a rough subject for many Tamil people since their history involves a lot of arranged marriages and inter-racial marriage. Many parents still feel the need to help their daughters find a man to marry even when their daughters don’t want or need help. It is considered a big no-no for a Tamil daughter to not be married by the time she is 30. Parents will often grill the man that is interested in their daughter to make sure that he meets their requirements for marriage. These requirements vary from height to education and family history.  The pressure to be in a relationship with a person that family approves of causes many younger Tamil men and women to hide their love lives from their families.

Traditional Hindu Tamil families have very strong beliefs about marriage and sex. Tamil dating is, in their tradition, a relationship heading towards marriage. Sex before saying ‘I do’ is a very taboo thing. It is believed that sex outside of marriage is a sin and will lead to hell. However many Tamil’s believe that it is ok to live with a partner as long as they are not having sexual relations before marriage.

beautiful tamil girls

Due to the pressure to marry a pure Indian woman there are men who will give up the woman that they are in love with to marry someone that their family approves of rather than face the wrath of family traditions.  Other men will have extramarital affairs with the woman that they are in love with along with marrying a woman that their family helps choose or approves of.

In the western hemisphere there are many complications in family life as many Tamil men and women are converting to western beliefs about dating and sex. Sometimes when that happens if the parents are not open to western beliefs they will be totally cut off from the family. The parents will cut off all communication between them and their child and will pretend that they no longer exist.

There are many websites devoted to helping Tamil’s find partners all over the world that would be approved by their family. One example of these websites is an online matchmaking site devoted to helping Tamil singles in England, Scotland, Wales, and North Ireland to find relationships, marriage and love.

Hindu Dating Ideas

Written by Padmay Lak. Posted in Indian Dating

hindu woman for datingHindu dating has become a more and more popular occurrence over the last several years. Customary traditions are being forsaken and single men and women are taking finding love into their own hands. Luckily dating for Hindus is something that is fun and exciting with plenty of possibility for the relationship that you are after.

Ideas for Your Date

Going on a date provides the perfect opportunity to have a wonderful time with a person of the opposite sex. During that date you can converse and share with one another while getting to know so much about each other. There is no wrong place for the date to take place, as long as it is something that both people enjoy doing.

By far the most popular place for a date to take place is at a coffee shop. Coffee shops provide a public space with a quiet, intimate setting where talking can easily be done. And, for those who are on limited budgets, coffee shops are affordable first dates!

The tried and true happy hours are also a great place to take your date. Ensure that drinking is something she doesn’t mind (or something she partakes in) before scheduling a date at a bar. Perhaps throwing back a couple of cold ones can remove the tension and awkwardness experienced on some first dates.

Of course you can also extend your dating ideas to something more bold and daring if you wish. Perhaps tickets to a sporting event would serve as the ultimate date for you and the lucky lady. Museums, art galleries and festivals are also popular places to take a date.

Of course a restaurant is also ideal for dating and another very popular place to go. Everyone enjoys eating, and with restaurants far and wide it will be simple to find a restaurant serving great food and a great atmosphere for a date. With such a wide selection of restaurants it is also easy to find one that meets your budget requirements.

Keep Your Cool During Your Date

Dating can be very enjoyable for both parties while helping to fulfill a need to have someone special in your life. Whether you are looking for someone to share a few romantic evenings, a partner to go out on the town with or are looking for a life partner, consider one of these ideas for dating and you cannot go wrong!

Some Tips for Dating In India

Written by Padmay Lak. Posted in Indian Dating

beautiful indian girls for datingDoes dating in India really exist? You bet it does. While the Indian culture still remains in full tact, times have also changed considerably over the past few decades and dates are becoming more and more popular. Men and women of all ages, usually starting in the teenage years, enjoy conversation, romantic dinners and other benefits of dating as they attempt to find someone sharing the same religion, with the same goals in life, the same interests and one with the same wants and desires.

Even those abiding by customary Indian traditions can enjoy a date with their chosen partner, though this is something seen in only about 75% of the Indian relationships these days.

Making the Date

Whether you are a person who has an arranged meeting of a partner or one who has chosen their own partner, the date is the easiest way to get to know the other person. In India a date takes place and if the two people like each other and wish to continue their relationship, another meeting is prepared. The date can be anything from dining at a restaurant to a walk in a park. In most cases the approval of the parents is an important part of a following date, even in non-traditional arrangements.

Dating can take place for a very short few weeks or many months, depending upon the couple, the type of date and what they are looking for. A date can be taken several nights per week, once per week or less often. Customary procedures would result in marriage to follow these dates regardless of the length of time.

How to Find a Date

If you are one who takes dating into the modern times, finding a date with a beautiful Indian woman can be more difficult than for other cultures. This doesn’t mean that it is impossible, however. With the Internet available these days, making it much easier to find someone that is attractive and meets your standards. Using the web is a wonderful way to find the lady that you have been dreaming of.

Women for dating can also be found in other ways besides the Internet. You never know when you will run into a beautiful woman that you want to see again, and it is possible to find her without even looking. Plus, ladies can be found at a number of entertainment venues, such as restaurants and bars.